Women's Program
The first of its type in the region, the Women's Program is dedicated to treating women who feel hopeless, overwhelmed, depressed, and suicidal. The program can also assist women who are self-injurious, painfully lonely, feel "out-of-control," or who have problems with relationships. Staffed by psychiatric experts in women's health, the program's treatment is based on Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT), a clinically proven treatment that includes:
Individual therapy and medication management
Skills training in mindfulness, managing emotions, tolerating stress, and improving self-esteem
Weekly skills training follow-up groups for any interested patients after they are discharged
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I had to place the information at the very top of my post so that I wouldn't forget to put it in.
I went to see my medicine nurse today, really didn't want to go because I thought there would be more pills to take and I am so sick of pills. I had a surprise.
After she heard about me being afraid of my 6-year-old grandson when he has his tantrums, and knowing about 20 years of BS I have put up with in my family life, she decided that this Woman's Group may be able to help me.
I haven't been able to help my situation and it's only getting worse and I don't think increasing my medication would help me any. I am barely aware enough as it is. Next Thursday I have to go and get evaluated for the programme. I am in uncharted territory. I have no idea what they will do with, and for me.
These classes will be from 9-3pm, like an out patient sort of thing, run by the private Psychiatric Hospital in RI. I will have to drive in the city as that is where the hospital is. I guess the class hours are in the quieter parts of the day, not the am and pm rush hour. I refuse to think about that part.
I have never stood up for myself. Even when I was in elementary school I was teased and threatened to be beat-up and I was scared to death. We all know there's no use to tell the teacher or Headmistress because that only makes it worse.
You learn through life to put your head down and keep going. Also to put a good face on things so that nobody knows how you feel inside. After a while you withdraw more and more from social situations, anything where you felt confident enough to stand your own ground and trust your own judgement.
I'm passed all that. People have belittled me, used me for a doormat and now my own 6-year-old grandson who I love to death itself slaps me, kicks, pushes, shouts and throws things at me and I can't make him do anything because I don't want to deal with anything I can avoid.
Maybe these people can help me. I never knew I had any other option for help, having figured this would be my lot in life, to take so much medication and feel victimised in my own house by everybody, the latest being a 6-year-old.
I really didn't have much of a role model, my mother was treated much the same, except none of us children would never even THINK of raising a hand to her.
Maybe this will help. The insurance will pay for it. Maybe there is still a little time to teach me to stand on my own two feet and make judgements for myself, instead of giving my life over to others to kick around
Poor you! I really really hope the programme helps you Linda. Remember, we are all worth something in this world, and you are valuable and important as anyone else. Give your grandson a behaviour chart with stars added for good behaviour, working toward a reward at the end of the week if he earns enough stars.His behaviour isn't a reflection on you x
ReplyDeleteJust read some of your previous posts and sorry I did not realise your grandson had autism.
ReplyDeleteThanks so much Fizzycatssis for your encouraging comment and for reading what I have to say, I am very touched *hugz* I love my grandson with all my heart of course and I would never blame him for something he can't help. He was just trying to get his point across and I wasn't understanding. I can't change him, I can only hope that with his ongoing programme he can learn to control himself as he gets older. I worry very much about him when he gets older and how he will cope with ordinary living, work and relationships.
ReplyDeleteHis helper tells me they are working very hard with him and he will be alright. Then on the other side of the coin he can be the lovingest little boy in the whole wide world!
My problem isn't what he does, it's my own reaction to the situation. I should have taken charge, I am the adult here, right? In stead I cowered and let him hit. Then I realised that has been my attitude all my life, no wonder I never got anywhere.
In other words, my medicine nurse decided anough was enough and I have to have help because I really never learned what other people take for granted. She said this programme was like a years' worth of therapy all rolled into one. Having gone thru therapy all my life, I am holding out for a positive outcome :)
Thanks so much again for caring, it means a great deal to me xxxx Linda